Indianapolis, IN – In her new book, The Five Most Harmful Myths About Grief, Indianapolis-based bereavement expert, life coach, and Death Cafe facilitator Elaine Voci, Ph.D., uses her masterful storytelling skills and years of professional experience to dispel bad advice that can be harmful to people who are grieving. Healthy grieving, Voci explains, includes self-compassion and the ability to recognize harmful advice and common myths that can negatively impact the healing process when mourning a loved one.

Book Cover The Five Most Harmful Myths About GriefFacing the loss of loved ones, and the grief that accompanies those losses, is a unique and individual life-changing experience. The Five Most Harmful Myths About Grief compassionately examines the myths, perpetuated in society, that create fear, guilt, and often lead to the bereaved asking themselves, “Am I doing this right?” Voci clearly and empathetically confirms that there isn’t a “right” way, or only one way, to grieve.

“There is a growing agreement among death educators that grieving does not follow a set of stages,” says Voci. “Instead, it comes in oscillating waves, a dual process that goes back and forth between being focused on loss, and being focused on restoring ourselves.”

Sharing compelling stories of grief and loss that she has faced in her own life, Voci crafts a comforting, insightful, honest narrative that draws its authenticity from her prolific career, specialized training, and personal experiences. She explains how she, and others, live with and process the emotions and changes that accompany grief, and illustrates how recognizing bad advice—the myths about how, when, and for how long one should mourn—is essential for healthy grieving. Voci provides guidance for navigating these harmful falsehoods, and offers healthy ways to ease the pain of grief, honor loved ones, and accept that loss and grieving are universal human experiences.

“The grief journeys I have taken have given me the gift of courage to keep loving others even at the risk of one day losing them,” explains Voci. “My hope is that this booklet will add to your grace as you are opened, deepened, strengthened, and softened by your grief.”

The Five Most Harmful Myths About Grief was published by a local company that is no longer in business, but the book is available in paperback at

Review copies of The Five Most Harmful Myths About Grief are available to media contacts upon request.

Author Elaine Voci is available for interviews.

Elaine Voci

About Elaine Voci
Elaine Voci, Ph.D., is a life coach and a Life-Cycle Celebrant®, offering life and bereavement coaching to couples, families, and adults. She teaches workshops on caregiving and conscious aging, and facilitates a quarterly Death Cafe in her community. Dr. Voci is the author of eight inspirational books, a member of the International Women’s Writing Guild, and has been named one of the Top Ten Best Life Coaches in Indianapolis by Her own grief experiences have helped her integrate a positive life philosophy that acknowledges life and death as two sides of the same coin.